Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW, shares his insights into all-too-common issues in high-conflict divorces and promotes the spirit and intent of the BIFF Response®. 

Have you ever been in Court when a judge loses it? I mean the judge really cannot contain him/herself anymore when one of the...

© 2016 by Deborah S. Lyons, Ph.D.

Lately I’ve found myself at one of those nodal points in life where we examine past decisions with a willingness to take risks and address the problem in a new and different way.   One such arena for me was the manner in which I market myself...

© 2015 Andrea LaRochelle, RFM

I’m done. I quit. I can’t do this anymore. I give up. It’s exhausting trying to raise children with someone who hates you. And you’re done. Done fighting. Done placating. Done brainstorming ways to make it better. Done taking the...

© 2016 by Shawn Skillin, Esq, mediator and HCI speaker

I get calls all the time from one spouse who is in a great big hurry to get divorced. And that’s OK. But, the other spouse is often in exactly the opposite frame of mind. Why is that and how do you deal with it?  What does the...

© 2016 By Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., CFLS

When parents start living in two separate households, they need to redefine their boundaries, especially in regard to the children. There are many boundaries that people generally don’t think about when everyone lives in the same home. But after...

©2019 Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle

The High-Conflict Co-Parent Survival Guide found its own path as Andrea and I explored the options. Over time we realized that we were attempting to write a book that had already been written by others.
What hadn't been written was a book that...

© 2019 Andrea LaRochelle,RFM

1.  Cook a new recipe that’s complicated, time consuming and uses lots of exotic ingredients.  Spend hours puttering around spice markets, browsing at mouth-watering possibilities.  Invite friends over to enjoy the meal with...

© 2019 Andrea LaRochelle,RFM

Do you feel like your children are *missing out* by not spending time with both their parents on Christmas Day?

Have your children become a pawn in your ongoing parental conflict and Christmas is just another example of that?

When you are falling in love,...

© 2017 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

When parents separate, having a talk with your children that includes some or all of the following may be helpful (presented in age-appropriate terms). You can say this separately or jointly to your children. It helps if you agree on when you are going to say...

© 2016 Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq

Family court presents a difficult dilemma for reasonable people. If you act reasonably and use the cooperative problem-solving skills you use in daily life, you risk losing your case, your kids and your property because family court is a highly adversarial process...